Fear !!!

Fear :-
Fear it seems is a pscycological mechanism.Every body has fears .Even the bold fears. What we call fear emanates from the fact that your mind starts reacting to percieved danger.

Is Fear Necessary :-
Fear it seems is the mechanism that protects us from our stupid acts and danger.If there were no fear we will become unresponsive to danger singnals.For example if there were no fear you may jump from the 10th floor and do other stupid things.

Is it necessary to remove fear :-
All fears are not bad as stated above.It is only when the fear goes abnormal that we should be worried.If you start to get afraid of even the small things ,fear seems to go bad.

According to my view

"It is normal to get afraid of abnormal things
It is abnormal to get afraid of normal things."

How to take control of fear :-

Following are the things that could be help.

1. Most normal fears will reduce if you do the job you fear.It is just a caution that your body shows .It can be overcome by doing.

2. Many a time analysis helps.You classify your fear and see whether it is normal or abnormal and deal.

3.Think of God's help if you are afraid of uncertainities.Life is meant to live happily.So God would always have provided a solution to your problems.So take board in that thought.

4.See if you are attempting to do any abnormal task or work.This may trigger your normal fear mechanisms.

5.Try to remove wrong ideas ,egos and superiority and inferiority complexes.This will definitely have an effect on abnormal fear.

6.Remove the unrealistic assumptions that you have which will reduce your abnormal fear.

7.Do not always try to be at the top of the world.Accept the fact that we may not be number one everytime,we may not be the center of attraction everytime,we may also lose,we may not be popular every time etc.This will have your effect on your abnormal fears.

8.Do not think that it is because of you that the world runs.

9.To remove abnormal fear you could try to expose yourself to the fear stimulus in step by step fashion.Little by little you increase the contact with the stimulus.

10.Do not try to change everything in life .We may not be able to change everything but we can definitely deal with them.For example we may not be able to reduce floods but we could take some measures to deal with it,to minimise the losses ,to protect life and property.Please note that all things could be dealt with which could not be changed.Dealing is possible than changing.

11..Above all believe in yourself and God .That will give you lots of changes.

12.If there is too much abnormal fear that affects your life consult a doctor.

Also read this for information
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fear

Disclaimer :The ideas expressed here are the peronal opinion of the author.It may not work for your situation sometimes.It does not represent medical advice. To get medical help consult your doctor.

Marriage is blissful!!!

Blogger : Aparnaa

Blog : Lunch time Arathttai

Post id : Click here.

Subject : Quotes on Marriage

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Marriage is Blissful :

Marriages are made in heaven.

But so again, are thunder and lightning.

If you want your wife to listen and pay strict attention to every word you say,

talk in your sleep.

Marriage is a grand and divorce is at least hundred grand costly.

So if you are married stay married and if you are not stay not_married.

Married life is very frustrating.

In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens.

In the second year, the woman speaks and thea man listens.

In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.

When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing:

either the car is new or the wife.

A couple came upon a wishing well. The wife leaned over, made a wish and threw in a penny. The husband decided to make a wish .But he leaned over too much, fell into the well, and drowned. The wife was stunned for a moment but then smiled, "It really works!"

Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you say.

After marriage, he will fall asleep before you finish.

Every man wants a wife who is beautiful, understanding, economical, and a good cook. But the law allows only one wife.

I recently read that love is entirely a matter of chemistry.

That must be why my wife treats me like toxic waste.

A man is incomplete until he is married.

After that, he is finished.

Marriage is when a man and woman become as one;

the trouble starts when they try to decide which one.

Cricket Chronicles !!!

Blogger : Karthik Sriram
Blog : Extraordinarily ordinary
Post id : Click here
Post subject : His experience with cricket.
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Cricket Chronicles
Over the last two weekends, apart from IPL, the other momentous thing to happen was that I got back to playing cricket. Before the last time I did remotely close to playing cricket were one-on-one matches I used to play with my neighbor sometime in 2003, before I broke my wrist.

As happens in every Indian guy's life, Cricket was initially shovelled down my throat - mainly during the World Cup in 1992 and the infamous 1 ball 22-run match, which left everyone I knew - starting from my friend sitting beside me in class to the paal-kaaran (milkman) condemning England. And then, my migration to Madras happened and I joined PSBB - the school which opened my eyes to cricket, and various other things ;)

Summer cricket coaching became a habit and I soon found out that I sucked as a fielder in circle. I was good at slips and in the outfield and nowhere else. I briefly flirted with wicket-keeping, but then was not a great success at it too. But to compensate for all this, I did bat well. The place where I lived in Chennai was like 15 kilometers away from my school with the result that none of my school friends lived close by. My only pastime became seasoning my cricket bat by hitting a ball inside a sock, hung from a ceiling hook. This became such an obsession that by the end of my second summer, I was able to hit 25-30 balls on a trot with a stump instead of the bat. All this did contribute to my batting, but whenever it came to school matches, whoever was the captain, had the senses to ask me to open the batting and while fielding, I was there in the slips for the first 5-6 overs after which I was sent to third man where you hardly get the ball (especially if you play on matted wickets).

All this cricket, where, I was physically playing the game ended with my 9th after which I was more or less the armchair critic, commenting on how Tendulkar should have played an Akram delivery, while munching on kadalai and reading the Hindu! High school flitted past and I become one of those SVCE makkal (junta). It was here I got my first rude shock. I remember it was in my first semester when we cut a Basic Civil Engineering class and had match with another first year class. I alanjified for opening the batting and did get to open - thankfully, the guy who was captain-cum-cut-adikkum-idea-giver knew me from PSBB and so knew about my batting. But what happened next is the stuff nightmares are made of. 3 full tosses straight down the leg-side saw me connecting with nothing but air. And then with extraordinary luck I edged the fourth ball and tried to get a run only to see the other guy not respond. Run out for a duck and somehow, after that, I never wanted to play cricket again. Every good friend of mine in SVCE used to play and they called me too (out of courtesy, as they used to plan their cricket activities in front of me or they really wanted me to play, I don't know), but somehow the fear of once more becoming a cropper made me skip.

BE was done with and I became one of those typical tambrahm guys, coming to the US for MS. Here cricket was a much bigger thing. My room-mate and good friend here turned out to be a fanatical cricketer and seeing his and his team-mates fanaticism made me loathe playing cricket more.But as they say, Life is not without surprises, I have come to know a group of indi pasanga (people close to me know my paasam for these indi pasanga) and have started playing cricket with them. Its tough to listen to aaram se, aah, rukh, umpire se baahar kinda pechu, but these guys play just for the fun of it and its nice to do that.Hope I'm not that lazy to give up on this new found activity.

UPDATE: Its nice to see that I've not lost my once predominant offside play and my wrists are strong enough for me to flick balls on middle stump to fine leg, once again, after April 16th, 2003. And so far, I haven't scored a duck. Touchwood! But on the flip side, my ground fielding is not good, my bowling is horrible. Have not yet had the courage to try my spin - have been bowling donkey droppers so far.

Moments !!!

Blogger : Sudhakar (me)

Blog : Take a Break at anytime

Post Id : Click here

Subject : Moments in Real life,Inspiration

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SQUIRREL
I was enjoying coffee at the backdoor garden at my native village.A wonderful village at the foothills of western gaths .A view takes you to the a beautiful mountain bathed in clouds.Small rain drops that drizzled made the place look like heaven to me.That was the time when I met an unusual friend.A small squirrel.It was a little older than a new born. Possibly it got lost from its mother and searching her.It was a little scared on seeing me ,but was not comfortable moving too much. So it settled down without running, at the place itself.I ran inside took a small piece of cut tomato .I tried to give it to the squirrel .First it was a little hesitant but later came before to taste it. Once it smelled it ,it turned its head.I tried to feed it in its mouth .It turned its head ,looked angry, like a lover in anger who turns her head(writers imagination only!).
Then it did a peculiar thing it started indicating with its both hands in its mouth like scratching nuts.I did not understand first .But later understood it as indication of something to eat like nut.
I went and fetched the nut and when I came back the mother had found the baby which it took hold of , underneath it and started moving away into the trees.
A casual friend !!!!!.A beautiful time to remember.I still carry the picture of that ……..
Moment!!!
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There may be some small moments in life which are really wonderful,different,unusual,a lesson or anything .These are the moments in life which we should remember to learn,enjoy,love and store in minds.These moments do not give you any money ,wealth or power but these provide the essence of life.They give you the spirit ,enlightenment and entertainment,that you deserve.This heading tries to bring some of the best moments in life.(may be mine ,may be yours).
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Azhagiya Kavidaikal !!!

Blogger : Dreamzz Avathar
Blog : Close your Eyes
Post Id : Click Here
Subject :Azhagiya Kavidaikal ( Beautiful poems)
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எழுத்து அறிவித்தவன்
இறைவன் ஆவான்

கண்ணீரை கற்று தந்தவள்

காதலி ஆவாள்

இரவு முழுதும்
இனிய கனவுகள் தரும்
காதல்..

விழிகள் நெடுக
முட்கள் தைத்து தூங்க சொல்வாள்
காதலி..

சிந்தனை சிறையில் இருந்தேன்..
'ஹலோ.. என்ன பகல் கனவா?'
கனவே வந்து தட்டி எழுப்பியது
நான் ஒருவனாகத்தான் இருக்கமுடியும்!

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ஓராயிரம் யானைகள் கொன்றால்
பரணியாம்!
!என்னாயிரம் கனவுகள் வென்றதால்
காதலியோ?


மொழிகளற்ற கவிதை
உனற்கான என் காதல்...
எப்படி சொல்லுவேன் அதை
ஒற்றை மொழி கவிதையில்..
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எதிரே நடக்கையில்
ஏதேச்சையாக
உந்தன் விழிக்கத்திகளை
வீசி செல்கின்றாய்..
தன் மேல் தான் எறிவதாக சொல்லி
துடிக்க மறுத்து அடம் செய்கின்றது
எனது இதயம்!



நீ நடந்து என் பக்கம் வர
உன் காலடி தடங்களில்
தெரிந்த காதல் சுவடுகள்..
நீ என்னை விட்டு விலகி
செல்லும் தடங்களில் மட்டும்
தெரியாமலேயே போனது..
நிழல்கள் தங்கிவிட
நிஜங்கள் நீங்கிவிடுமோ?

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ஓர் நாள் ஓர் மாதம்
என குறித்து வைத்து சொன்னாலும்
எல்லா நாளும் எல்லா மாதங்களும்
எனை குறித்து வைக்காமலேயே
கொன்று போகுது உன் காதல்.

இன்னும் ஒரு வருடம் வரும்
இன்னும் ஒரு காதலர் தினம் வரும்
இன்னும் ஒரு காதல் கூட வரலாம்..
ஆனால்..
நீ வரத்தானடி நான் காத்திருக்கின்றேன்..